Giving a wedding toast can feel like a big responsibility, but it’s really nothing to fuss over as long as you’re prepared. Elite Marquees did some research and had a look at some fail-proof steps to crafting the perfect wedding toast for the happily married bride and groom.
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Some people can find it helpful to look at previous wedding speeches online (believe us, there’s a lot on YouTube) others find inspiration from famous scenes in movies or even quotes from children’s books, poetry, or music. Whatever you do to gather inspiration is your call, but it’s always a good idea to have a frame of reference before you start writing your own speech. If it’s a religious wedding, a famous bible passage might be your inspiration.
Start with an Introduction
The odds of you knowing every single guest at the wedding are not that high at all, so we recommend you go ahead and introduce yourself with a little anecdote about your relationship to the couple. This can be short and sweet or more of a memory you have about first meeting one of the two lovebirds to give the audience some context. Of course, you’re going to want to get a bit of humor in there to break the ice, you might not be naturally funny? Speak to a friend for a joke to help you break the ice.
Crafting the Speech
The recipe for a good wedding toast should include a little something about each person as an individual, a little something about what you appreciate in their relationship, and a toast to the future they’ll have together. If you’re able to include a story or two in there, or spice it up with your signature sense of humor, go right ahead.
Without a shadow of a doubt, everyone loves a funny wedding speech, but it’s never funny if it’s forced. A heartfelt speech can be just as memorable as a humorous one, so our advice is to just be yourself. If you’re a person who loves to crack jokes and get a crowd laughing, then go for it. Otherwise, stick to what you know works for you. Be yourself!
Avoid Talking About Yourself
You need to make sure this speech is to be enjoyed by the guests as much as by the couple, so you want to be careful to write a toast that’s not filled with personal references and inside jokes (and rude jokes, remember and know your audience). It’s also good to avoid using words such as “I”, “me”, and “my” too much, as a speech can start to sound narcissistic very quickly; this should be a tribute to the couple more so than a nod to your relationship with them.
Practice, Practice, Practice (Makes perfect)
Not only should you write your speech in advance, but you should also practice it to see how the timing goes and whether you like the flow. A helpful way to edit your own speech is by having someone else read it to you so you can listen for flaws and inconsistencies. Reading it through a couple of times with friends can also be helpful for the nerves you may be feeling about delivering the speech.
Finally, limit your visuals
As wedding toasts are meant to be short and sweet (no longer than 10 mins), it’s usually best to steer clear of a presentation. However, if you’ve talked it through with the couple and feel that guests would benefit from a handout or visual element, you’ll want to be sure it’s not intrusive or an added expense to the couple. Use your common sense.
If you are making a speech soon, we hope it goes according to plan. All the best from Elite Marquees ahead of your big moment.